Have you ever been involved in something, a part of something, or leader of something, and expected the support of your family and friends; only to be disappointed by their lack of excitement, lack of acknowledgement, or lack of overall support?
If you answered yes to this question, this blog is for you!
There is also a flip side…the side where people support you out of motive; motive of where it could possibly elevate them, motive of being seen as the go-to person, motive motive motive; not simply b/c they want to see you succeed in that thing, regardless of if they are part of it or not.
Romans 8:28 (NIV) says: “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love Him, who have been called according to His purpose.”
By nature, I genuinely get a kick out of seeing people live out their best lives, accomplishing things they set out to achieve, and just having joy in their lives in general.
When someone I know gets a new car, I express my happiness to them. Shoot, I may even ask for a test spin!!
When someone I know starts a business, gets elevated in ministry or the like, I rejoice for them.
So because of how I naturally am, in the past it was very difficult for me to deal with friend’s and family’s lack of response to progression in my life, especially in regards to progression within the realm of faith and witness within the body of Christ. Although the things I was doing were to glorify God and God alone, as Claire said in her Monday blog, “We want to be accepted. We want to be loved.” I’d say it is an innate part of the human experience.
Let me just clarify real quick that I am not speaking of the prayer-type of support. I realized that some people were interceding on my behalf and I always appreciated that b/c God says we must pray for one another. But I am specifically speaking of tangible support. As the owner of a Christian business, I often find that people will try to find a reason not to support you, than to do so. For example, instead of saying, “You don’t have my size in that shirt, so holla at me if you get plus sizes.” Why not, “Praise God for what you’re doing. I can’t fit the shirts but I have a friend that would love this. I want to buy it for her.” Boy oh boy, how that and other overt things would get under my skin. But not anymore.
The bottom line is that you have to be okay with the fact that everyone is not going to get it. It is not their vision…it is yours. Your only concern and responsibility should be to ensure that your vision properly aligns with
God’s will. Actually, if the vision came from Him in the first place, your only job is to be obedient to it and move as He instructs.
For you to be hurt or upset b/c of a lack of enthusiasm from people, is a slap in the face of God b/c you are essentially saying to Him, “You being pleased is not enough for me.” I had to learn to stop giving God’s power away. Even if a person is envious or hateful deep down inside and on the real…wishing for me to fail, no person can stunt my growth in Christ…EVER! Mark 10:9 (KJV), “What therefore what God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.” Ya dig? God is in control.
We are all flawed in various ways. Unfortunately, some people have the tendency to come off a tad more hateful and envious than the average. But some people want to help and just don’t know how to approach you. For every con, there is a pro. The bible says in Jeremiah 29:11 (NIV), “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”
Knowing this fact, how could you ever allow the non-supportive actions of your sister, your uncle, or your friend of 10-years, get you down? Also, you have to remember that everyone in your circle is not even a REAL Christian anyway. So why would they go out of their way to support your Christian endeavors?
I have learned to turn negative energy and indifference into positive fuel to keep my proverbial engine going and going and going. Perhaps making up for wasted time while being unsaved. I am just majorly motivated for Christ right now. He is calling me higher; giving me ideas and visions. He is telling me to run in some areas and be still in others.
I just want to do what He says and I also want to encourage others who are doing the same. Trust God that He will send you the support you need. Deuteronomy 31:8 (NIV) says, “The LORD himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged.” The extra stuff is just fluff. It is nice to have a rooting section, fans, and cheerleaders for your team, but if you don’t have that, your ministry is no less important to God if it is truly being done to glorify Him.
So my closing is two-fold.
1) People of the world celebrate each others success. Diddy’s friends threw him a huge party when he acquired ownership of Vodka brand Ciroc. As believers, let’s do better in encouraging one another with a sincere heart. Let’s learn to celebrate one another as GOD elevates us.
2) Believers, be BOLD and FABULOUS at all times. Be grateful for and show gratitude to those who have supported you and are continually in your corner. But continue on the path God has for you and treat people how you desire to be treated regardless of reciprocation or excitement from people you love and care for.
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