Are you a people pleaser? Do you say “YES” to certain things when you already know you don’t have the time, energy, or resources to make it happen, especially w/o taking away from something you’ve already committed to? Don’t feel bad folks. You are not alone! So, I want you to try something with me real quick. You ready? Ok…take a deep breath and say it with me… “NO!”
How do you feel? Well, one thing that many of us are missing in our lives is balance. This goes for every area; personal, financial, and yes… even in our spiritual lives with ministry, prayer, church commitments, etc.
If you have a heart for God, you find yourself wanting to get involved in every ministry possible. When I got saved a few years ago and joined my church, I was just so excited to be part of something worth-wild that I was active in every ministry I was asked to be part of. My default answer for my first year in the church was “YES!” I created, took pictures for, and maintained the church blog, regularly attended Bible Study, Choir rehearsal, Men’s shelter, Women’s shelter, Evangelizing, Marriage fellowships, and more…
My quality time at home consisted walking my dogs and seeing my husband in passing. I had started to feel burned out, but I still kept saying “YES”. I thought that if I said “NO” to those things, that I would in essence be saying “NO” to God. I knew that the Christian walk was not easy. I also realized things would not always be comfortable for me. So b/c of this, the conflict I was having about it inside, I just chucked it up to being tricks of the enemy.
With more study time reading, God started to show me otherwise. I realized one key piece to the puzzle:
Never once did I consult God on what HE was leading me to be involved in.
*Proverbs 2:10-11 (NIV) reads: For wisdom will enter your heart and knowledge will be pleasant to your soul. Discretion will protect you and understanding will guard you.* When God became the sole reason I got involved in certain ministries, instead of disappointment from man, the burdens lifted. Prayer had to become second nature to me. I am not saying that I have it all together, but I am further along than I once was…glory to God. My advice is don’t say yes to ANYTHING w/o consulting the Holy Spirit first.
About a year ago, Holy Spirit was leading me into the book of Exodus. I must admit, I have been the type of person to read parts of the bible that speak to my situations…that minister to me most. The Moses stuff just really didn’t stick to me and to be honest, I found it a boring book to read. So I ignored the urging to read it. Then a few months ago, I was looking at a talk show and a girl on the stage was named Exodus. Hearing her name put it on my heart to start reading and I read the whole book.
Shortly thereafter, God put The Bold and The Fabulous on my heart. I was excited. I wanted to just get it started immediately. But God said, “WAIT! This vision is too large for you alone. You need a team…partners. Pray. Trust me and remember the conversation between Moses and his Father-In-Law (Exodus 18:13-25).” Sometimes we need to tell ourselves “NO!”
In closing, “NO” is not a bad word. If you’re connected to Holy Spirit, He will make you fully aware of where you are needed. If you don’t heed to that, you will be disciplined. Seek God to know the difference between being obedient to God and/or to man. God gives us gifts and strengths to be used to glorify Him and bring others to a knowledge of Him. So this is not a discouragement of ministry. Please involve yourself in ministry as God leads. But also don’t lose focus of your priorities of life overall. Know your strengths and weaknesses. Pray for discernment. Value your marriage. Foster Godly friendships. Have realistic expectations. Listen to the still voice. Know that you are not alone. Be FABULOUSLY BOLD. And lastly, hold Proverbs 19:21 in your heart; “Many are the plans in a man’s heart, but it is the LORD’s purpose that prevails.”
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