Unequally Yoked?!? “Till Death Do Us Part”…

1Peter 3 “In the same way, you wives must accept the authority of your husbands, even those who refuse to accept the Good News. Your godly lives will speak to them better than any words. They will be won over by watching your pure, godly behavior. Don’t be concerned about the outward beauty that depends on fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. You should be known for the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God. In the same way, you husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat her with understanding as you live together. She may be weaker than you are, but she is your equal partner in God’s gift of new life. If you don’t treat her as you should, your prayers will not be heard.

 I want to start by saying this word is not “EXCLUSIVE” for married folk; however, is designed(Thru Christ) to minister to those who have not made that commitment(Marriage) as well. As I read 1 Peter it reminded me of how EASY it can be for me to REMOVE MYSELF from people whose “FRUIT” show them to be not ENCOURAGING to my “DAILY” walk with Christ; However, what happens when that individual is the person that you made a COMMITMENT to GOD(Yes, when you marry you make a commitment to your spouse BUT MOST IMPORTANTLY to GOD) “TILL DEATH DO US PART”……YEEEEEEEEEEES THIS IS A TOUGH ONE & I’M GOING IN!!!!  I’m a FIRM believer that the bible is “PREPARING” us ” TILL DEATH DO US PART” and it’s no different in 1st Peter. His words are “MAKING US VERY AWARE” that there will be suffering in marriage, especially for those Christians who choose to live godly lives.

 I’ll use my marriage as an example because God called my life to change first and in my CONSTANT TRANSFORMATION(Thru Christ) my husband was drawn to give his life to Christ. Now,  don’t get me wrong my husband hasn’t “ARRIVED”; however, I can testify that God has bought him a MIGHTY MIGHTY….did I say MIGHTY?!?!? LONG WAY from the person he used to be. So, I say that to say though we’re not COMPLETELY on the same page with our walk I will CONTINUE to GO HARD for Christ in an attempt to continue to be an EXAMPLE for my husband because God has placed on my heart thru the Holy Spirit that MY WALK WITH HIM WILL PLAY A VERY IMPORTANT PART IN WHAT GOD IS GOING TO DO IN MY MARRIAGE. As TRUE believers we must be ready and willing to live in a way that dramatically differs from what WE WANT to glorify God and His word. Luke 21:19 “By standing firm you will gain life.” Now, when I speak of “DRAMATICALLY DIFFERENT” I’m NOT saying that if you have a spouse that is “UNSAVED” (the WORD says you KNOW a”TREE” by the “FRUIT” it bears so people are VERY AWARE if their SPOUSE/PERSON THEIR “COURTING” is unsaved) that you should be COMPROMISING YOUR WALK to PLEASE your spouse ex. drinking alcohol(GETTING DRUNK), clubbing, doing things that are SIMPLY NOT PLEASING in the sight of God.

 Romans 12:2 reminds us of this “Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.” I have experienced people(Married/Single) that will compromise an awesome PERSONAL relationship they have built with Christ to please the opposite sex which whom their in a marriage/relationship with in an attempt of saving their marriage/relationship. It breaks my heart because they LOSE SO MUCH to GAIN SO LITTLE and end up right back at the Father’s feet begging for forgiveness for leaving Him once the “TEMPORARY GAIN IS LOST” because ONLY God can change man or WOMAN. Once the mind/SPIRIT is set that the unsaved spouse/person being courted is rejecting the gospel and YOU CAN’T FIX IT by DOING THE SAME THING and in those relationships, the conduct of the saved spouse/person courting should be such that the unsaved is saved not by that persons speech; However, by their silence thru prayer/Christ-Like DAILY WALK. Once the saved spouse/person courting is TRULY displaying God’s light, though they may receive comments like “Oh, so I guess your HOLIER than THOU” or “Side comments MOCKING or DOWN TALKING their christian walk”. Luke 22:63-65  “Now the men who held Jesus mocked Him and beat Him. And having blindfolded Him, they struck Him on the face and asked Him, saying, ‘Prophesy! Who is the one who struck You?’ And many other things they blasphemously spoke against Him.” Matthew 27:29-31 “And they bowed the knee before Him and mocked Him, saying, ‘Hail, King of the Jews!’ Then they spat on Him, and took the rod and struck Him on the head. And when they had mocked Him, they took the robe off Him, put His own clothes on Him, and led Him away to be crucified.”    

Jesus ENDURED ALL THAT & THEN SOME so that WE will be saved because He was SOOOOO DETERMINED to do what He was sent to do for US, He ACCEPTED A LOT of MOCKING/DISRESPECTFUL talk so that OUR sins would be WIPED CLEAN. Therefore, if we have to take a few words to DISPLAY Christ by responding in LOVE thru PRAYER/SILENCE then SO BE IT and I don’t think people TRULY UNDERSTAND how “BIG” those actions are to an UNSAVED SPOUSE and how much of an IMPACT that LOVE/SILENCE WILL HAVE on God’s END RESULT because the SAVED spouse REMAINED FAITHFULLY in HIS WILL. Today, I want to ENCOURAGE the married to “LET YOUR LIGHT SHINE/REMAIN FAITHFUL” thru Christ and HANG IN THERE because the “REWARD” that Christ WILL provide is going to “BLOW YOUR MIND”. Also ENCOURAGING those who are “COURTING” to “STAND FIRM” for Christ and He will “STAND FIRM” in REWARDING YOU with your “TILL DEATH DO US PART(Your Husband/Wife). 

 1st Corinthians 7:12-14 “To the rest I say (I, not the Lord) that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he should not divorce her. If any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he consents to live with her, she should not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband is made holy because of his wife, and the unbelieving wife is made holy because of her husband.” ……..ENOUGH SAID in Jesus Name!!!!! 


  Be Bold

Be Faithful 2 Christ

Be An Example of Christ

Be Patient

 Be Not Conformed

Be Standing Firm


 ~Monisha Starr Carter~


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5 Responses to Unequally Yoked?!? “Till Death Do Us Part”…

  1. HANK LLOYD says:

    The Christian who wants to marry an unbeliever
    When we are making decisions, God deals with us in two different ways. Before we decide, God deals with us in one way. After we decide, God deals with us in another way. If you are a Christian who wants to marry an unbeliever, you must first realize that the strongest yoke you can make on earth is the yoke of marriage. Once you tie the knot with the person, God will acknowledge it as so and will expect you to stay with him or her until death.
    This is why God commands us not to be yoked with an unbeliever, but to marry only in the Lord (1Cor 7:39). It doesn’t matter how cute he is, how popular or nice, or how great his personally is, there is a part in him that you can’t see that will make your “plowing” in life very difficult. You will be amazed how his “cuteness” disappears when he starts yelling at you. His spirit inside is dead in sin, while yours is alive in Christ (Eph 2:1,5). This will influence nearly every decision that you will make, as well as the people you associate with. Because you have two completely different philosophies of life, you will probably argue more than if your were in a Christian marriage. Don’t expect him to get excited about spiritual things and don’t be surprised when he wants you to compromise your convictions. Christians who are married to unbelievers continually have problems in these areas. God wants a Christian to only marry another believer.
    The Christian who is already married to an unbeliever
    If you are already married to an unbeliever, you are probably wondering, “Am I out of God’s will now that I am married to an unbeliever? Has God forsaken me?” The answer is clearly, “No!” It may seem contradictory to say it’s wrong to marry an unbeliever, and then say you can be in God’s will after you have married him.
    But remember, God works with us in one way before we make a decision through pointing us down the right path. He works with us in a different way after we have made the decision through accepting our decision and working in it. This can be verified throughout Scripture, particularly in Romans 8:28. Isn’t it great to know that we serve such a loving, all-knowing, gracious God that when we make a mistake, we are not doomed to live forever in condemnation! By dedicating our wrong decisions to God, He will accept us in our present situation and work our decisions into His will (Eph. 1:11). He will do the same with your unequally yoked marriage.
    As a word of encouragement to Christians who have unbelieving spouses, some of the most loving and blessed Christian married couples that I know started out with both spouses as unbelievers in a totally non-Christian marriage. Along the way, one got saved and then the other, and they now have a beautiful Christian marriage. If you are a believer, at least you are now half way there! Your spouse might be fighting against God, but wouldn’t it wonderful to see him saved so that God can do a miracle in your marriage too? Don’t give up hope!
    No doubt many of you who have unbelieving spouses have already gone through a lot of heartache. I’m sure you have even been persecuted by the one you are closest to. Here are some things that will help you when the going gets tough:
    Realize that God knows about your situation.
    Don’t divorce your unbelieving spouse
    Let God use you in your marriage
    When your spouse causes trouble,
    realize where it is coming from.
    Pray for him and your family daily.
    Submit to him as to the Lord. (Eph 5:22, Col 3:18, 1Pet 3:1).
    Be Patient!
    It may take some time for God to renew your marriage, but look at God’s timetable, not yours. Continue to pray because God is listening.

  2. iNDIGO says:

    Great post Mdot!! =D
    I always say that being a believer takes marriage to another level. For mine, marriage became more of a challenge AFTER CHRIST b/c once we were aware of the UNCOMPROMISED TRUTH of the gospel, we had to in essence, relearn what the MINISTRY of marriage is all about. When you are not in Christ, you can live “happy and together for life” b/c you are going by your own guidelines…not God’s. Being equally yoked in Christ from the beginning of a marriage is ideal b/c it allows this transition to not have to be such a struggle.
    Praise God for your word today.

  3. Mom Dukes says:

    The first two years of my marriage was clothed in the ways of the world, then I became a believer before my husband and we shared another two years of being unequally yoked. My husband tells others that I could have preached to him about his “wrong” life but instead I prayed for him and continued to live with him while developing my new life in Christ, which was one of the tools the Holy Spirit used to bring him into the family of Christ. We have been serving the Lord together for the past twenty-two years and I have the husband and marriage I prayed for back then, actually, he’s SO much more of a husband than I had the sense to pray for! A Godly marriage is truly a gift from the Lord. And I thank Him EVERYDAY for my best friend, my husband!!! So, pray, pray and pray some more for your marriages!!! God only wants the BEST for both of you!!!

  4. Campus Security(Dad) says:

    Here’s something from OSWALD CHAMBERS’S “My UTMOST FOR HIS HIGHEST” dated Nov 5. “If you are going to be used by God, He will take you through a multitude of experiences that are not meant for you at all, they are meant to make you useful in His hands, and to enable you to understand what transpires in other souls so that you will never be surprised at what you come across.” In marriage, I have always said ” Marriage used by God is to show the relationship he wants to have with us through Jesus Christ, After all the church is called the bride of Christ. And God also uses two in a marriage like sandpaper b/c in livivg for Him in your marriage He is rubbing the two pieces of sandpaper together until they become smooth and the ruffiness is gone and the two become one flesh and that’s BIBLE. So as you become that living example continue to live your life pleasing to God, and to live peacefully through Christ. BE Blessed.

  5. ColemanGotx says:

    Man, really want to know how can you be that smart, lol…great read, thanks.

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