Lately it seems as if everyone I know has a family member or friend who they are disappointed in for one reason or another. I can’t tell you how may times someone has reached out to me to ask me to pray for someone and their wasted potential. If you’re wondering exactly what I mean, check out my random examples:

The cousin who had a full scholarship to college who gets busted for theft or drugs or etc. right before he/she is set to leave.
The daughter who gets pregnant out of wedlock, gets her stuff together, then gets pregnant out of wedlock again.
The brother with multiple gifts & talents who has become a moocher, pimp, gigalo, or overall lazy bum.
I could go on, but I think you get the idea.
Sure, some of you have lead close to picture perfect lives… minded your parents, stayed on honor roll, never tried alcohol or drugs, went straight to college, grad school, etc., stayed virgins, graduated top of your class, got your dream career, never had financial challenges, and then, married your close to picture perfect mate.
There are others of us who have lead not so perfect existences… rebels w/o a cause, barely able to keep a C-average, smoked a lil’ weed, decided “college ain’t for me”, had a sexual partner or two, struggled to get or keep a job, had financial challenges, and then, never get married but have multiple kids by mutliple men.
I could go on but again, I think y’all get the idea.
Do I think it’s normal to be disappointed when things don’t turn out as we antcipate for the lives of those we love and care for? Sure I do, but does it being the norm make it right?
What makes you think that how you turned out hasn’t disappointed someone who loves and cares for you? Our perception of success and failure is one-sided. There is a fine line between wanting better for someone and feeling entitled enough to force our desires onto the plan for thier lives. To some extent, our disappointment equates to arrogance.
As Christians, we tend to forget that God has a plan for each of us. Of course, it is not His desire that we deviate from His original plan for us and go against Him, but He does allow some of us to stray because we all have distinctively different purposes on this earth. Some of us were destined to lead a straight-laced existence. Others were destined to take a zig-zagged road. What happened to BELIEVING GOD? Trusting God and His plan, even at the expense of our own wants for ourselves and others takes a lot of maturity. Proverbs 3:5 is very clear!!! We have to be careful not to idolize our own thoughts. Believers, let’s STOP making TRUST GOD the Plan B approach. Meaning, we will proclaim we believe Him IF things are going according to OUR PLAN!!
It’s sad to see your favorite cousin go to prison -but- we rejoice when he finds Christ while inside and becomes a witness of the Gospel.
It sucks to see your dad strung out on drugs -but- we rejoice when he commits his life to Jesus after hitting rock bottom and allows his story to bring other addicts out of darkness.
It’s disheartening to see your only child living a gay lifestyle -but- we rejoice when he/she has the light-bulb moment and decides to leave it behind as a sacrifice to deny self & glorify God totally with his/her life.
I could go on but, _______________________  *feel free to complete the sentence!! lol.
Stay close to the cross and pray that God’s will for your life be fulfilled through any means necessary. Be BOLD & FABULOUS in Jesus’ name!!
*Wednesdays w/ iNDIGO*

About boldandfab

Where Being A Witness Meets Chic Sophistication! Where Every Word Has Profound Meaning. It's all us...ALL REAL! B & F.
This entry was posted in Wednesdays with iNDIGO and tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink.


  1. Mom Dukes says:

    A Godly man once told me that an individual’s testimony, whether it’s of a life that has been rooted in Christ from the day of salvation or about a life riddled with bumps and bruises that finally surrendered all to Christ, is the best double-edged sword to use to bring the lost to the realization of their need for the Savior. Either one testifies of God’s faithfulness and unconditional love for this dying world. Even though the Lord knows who will come to Him in repentance and who will not, WE DON’T.. so prayer is the ultimate means of trusting the Lord and accepting His will for our lives and the lives of our loved ones.. After all, He wants that NONE should perish… great insight, Indigo! and welcome back!

    • Indigo says:

      Love your comment Mom Dukes and ur right, only God knows who is sincerely repentant. Thank you for reading and commenting!!

  2. Tiane says:

    Cuzzo!!!! This one really spoke to me! Thanks for this! Love you!

    • Indigo says:

      GLORAAAAYYY!!! Love u 2 Cuzin. God is SOOOOO GOOD!!!!!! Thanx 4 your support in reading and commenting. Feel free to share the link w/ anyone u know it will bless.

  3. boldandfab says:

    This. Was. #WINNING!

    I need to read it again…and then send it to a friend…


  4. Bianca says:

    Wow… this hit home for me! Trusting God is always easy but it’s always better than going this world alone. Thanks for being bold with your words sis! Great post!

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s