Call Me Crazy BUT…
I tweeted last night that from now on I would make any guy who wanted to take me out, fill out and submit an application for courtship. While I was joking, a part of me held on to that thought for a little bit, reflecting on what that application would actually look like. I once saw a quote that I fell in love with that said “A woman’s heart should be so lost in God that a man needs to seek Him in order to find her”. This added fuel to my application fire, wondering if there were an application for courtship, what questions would God include??? As I let my mind race, I decided to go ahead and draft this application, mostly out of fun, but seriously considering the most important aspects to making a good partner.
These are the verses that came to mind when I thought about what God might ask the man who tries to court me…
I feel like these verses point out the true essence of a Godly relationship and would be necessary in discerning before moving forward.
Joshua 24:15 If it is disagreeable in your sight to serve the LORD, choose for yourselves today whom you will serve: whether the gods which your fathers served which were beyond the River, or (A)the gods of the Amorites in whose land you are living; but as for me and my house, we will serve the LORD.”
Proverbs 20:6 Many a man claims to have unfailing love, but a faithful man who can find?
1 Corinthians 7:34 But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world—how he can please his wife— and his interests are divided. An woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world—how she can please her husband. I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord.
Ephesians 5:23-33 Love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church — for we are members of his body. “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” [This is a profound mystery — but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
1 Timothy 3:2-7,12 Now the overseer must be above reproach, the husband of but one wife, temperate, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach, not given to drunkenness, not violent but gentle, not quarrelsome, not a lover of money. He must manage his own family well and see that his children obey him with proper respect. If anyone does not know how to manage his own family, how can he take care of God’s church? He must not be a recent convert, or he may become conceited and fall under the same judgment as the devil. He must also have a good reputation with outsiders, so that he will not fall into disgrace and into the devil’s trap. A deacon must be the husband of but one wife and must manage his children and his household well.
Proverbs 18:22 He who finds a wife, finds a good thing and receives favor from the Lord.
So here it is, my application for courtship: