Today I had one of the realest conversations with my best friend that I’ve had in 13 years. While we have always served as that confidant for one another, today’s talk was around the idea of accountability. In Genesis chapter 4, God asked Cain where his brother was, in which Cain responds “Am I my brother’s keeper?” This passage demonstrates the common human mentality of selfishness. Cain is not alone in his perception of personal responsibility. There are other passages however that let us know that we are indeed our brother’s and sister’s keeper.
James tells us in 5:16:
“Therefore, confess your sins to one another, and pray for one another so that you may be healed. The effective prayer of a righteous man can accomplish much.” (NASB)
1 Thessalonians 5:11 says:
“Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.” (NIV)
Finally Colossians 3:16 says:
“Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly as you teach and admonish one another with all wisdom, and as you sing psalms, hymns and spiritual songs with gratitude in your hearts to God.” (NIV)
This is precisely what Jen and I discussed. Our friendship is certainly a divine institution of God himself, blessing me with a sister whom has been by my side like Peter, John, and James were to Jesus. We declared, however, that as we grow in our walks with Christ, our friendship should grow as well. It is today that we decided to be accountability partners with purpose. We put rules and expectations in place that would guide us in our new avenue of unexplored friendship. We understand that if we are to move forward in God’s perfect will, we are to bring each other along. At this point we made a commitment before God to hold each other to God’s expectations and make sure that we are BOTH doing what is pleasing to our Father. For this to work, it will require us to both be as transparent as possible, fearing no judgement. It also means we have to GET bare-boned honest with one another, sticking to the Proverb that says “Wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiplies kisses.” Sometimes the truth is gonna hurt, but that’s the life we chose when we accepted Christ as our Savior.
I guess I share this with you all to say if nothing less, who is holding you accountable to God’s word? Who around you is making sure you stay on track with Christ? Who is pointing out your areas of growth and showing you how to fix them in scripture? Who is praying and fasting with you and FOR your future? If you don’t have this person, pray that God send them to you. This life is hard to live right alone. We all need that partner who is gonna keep it real, for the sake of our soul.