“Above all, be careful what you think because your thoughts control your life.” Proverbs 4:23
I don’t do Damsel in Distress well. I can handle my life on my own. Or so I thought. The mind is a dangerous place. That’s where all your behavior starts… So in my mind, I decided that a woman needing help was all an act. In some instances it may be, but not ALL the time. Right?
Damsel in Distress – A stereotype portraying an unmarried female who needs to be saved. (Urban Dictionary)
“She is usually a beautiful young woman placed in a dire predicament by a villain and requires a hero to acquire her rescue (a knight in shining armor). After rescuing her, the hero can usually convince the woman to be his wife.” (Wikipedia)
Not only did I think a woman needing help was an act, but that it was a bad thing; a weak thing. I know I’m not the only person who thinks that asking for help is a sign of weakness. Not sure where it came from, but I’m mature enough to admit that my thinking was really flawed.
Somewhere in my life I’d been let down by someone who meant a great deal to me. That letdown caused me to develop a lack of trust and a damaged way of thinking. “I won’t trust anyone ever again.” “I’ve got it!” “I’m good.”
Life has a way of getting you to admit the truth. HELP!!!!
I don’t want to be someone who doesn’t trust anyone. As human beings we need each other. We weren’t created to live in isolation. We weren’t meant to do things on our own, but to complement one another. Where one person falls short the other can jump in a take up the slack, fill in the gaps.
I’ve been taking baby steps and trusting more. Letting others in and asking for help. It’s a scary step (I can’t use leap here) of faith, but well worth it. It’s all a part of me accepting others for who they are and allowing them to be there for me in their own way. IN THEIR OWN WAY is huge, because other people won’t always go about doing things exactly the way that I would go about it. Sometimes doing things differently is okay, if the job gets done. I know that doesn’t apply in every instance, but in general…It could work.
Is trusting others to help you something you struggle with? Take that step and ask for help. Sure you’ll get disappointed and let down again, but those times that you’re pleasantly surprised will be well worth it. As you take more steps, you’ll learn who to trust and with what things. You will make the mistake of trusting the wrong person, and then there will be times you get it right. Of course there are some things that you’ll realize you should only trust God to take care of… You won’t learn until you take those first steps. Live. Learn. Grow.
Yes I could do it all, but I can’t do it all well… Or without being exhausted. Letting someone else share the load is refreshing. ❤