Teachable Moment

Have you ever heard the saying, “There’s a first time for everything”? Well, it’s true in every way. Yesterday morning, I woke up with something I never had before. A blood shot red eye! No, I’m not talking about Pink Eye or a red, irritated eye. I’m talking about a Hematoma!!! It literally looks like I was in a fight or car wreck.photo (4)

I noticed throughout the day, the looks I would get as I removed my shades. People seemed to wince at it; as if it pained them. Thing is, as unsightly as it appears… there is no pain, or discomfort associated with it. If I couldn’t see it in the mirror, I wouldn’t even know it was there.

I’m sure you’re saying, “So what!” right about now. Where’s the wisdom in this? Where’s the lesson? Well, I’m glad you asked. You see, there is an epiphany that has come along with this.

I went to see my Doctor this morning because the redness intensified and got bigger. I was worried. I had no clue what was going on with my eye. It’s called a Subconjunctival Hemmorhage (or in layman terms, a busted blood vessel). Come to find out, it’s actually a very common occurrence, which most typically comes from:

trauma to the eye

a sudden increase in blood pressure resulting from heavy lifting, coughing, sneezing, and/or constipation.

blood thinning medication (aspirin included)

Lasik or cataract eye surgery

a blood clotting disorder or Vitamin K deficiency

Since my allergies have been on super-fleek all week, and I’ve been out of control sneezing. My Doctor said that is likely the cause, but he ordered blood tests to make sure I haven’t acquired a blood clotting disorder or have a Vitamin K deficiency.

Sometimes, what we see as the most serious or erroneous situations in our lives, aren’t really as bad as they seem. If we just take the time to gain perspective by getting all the facts, we often realize there’s no need to panic. It wasn’t what you thought! Just as there is no pain associated with this eye issue that looks absolutely miserable, we’ve got to remember that perception is not necessarily reality.

On the flip side of the saying, “Everything that glitters, ain’t gold”, we also must remind ourselves to be aware of things that may need attention that we can’t actually see. The Hematoma looks hideous, but it will heal itself in a week or two and has no lasting effects. There are people dealing with pain; suffering beneath the surface… Mental Illness, diseases in their bodies, coping with the loss of a loved one, trying to hold broken families together… people are hurting and there is no obvious Hematoma to bring it to others attention.

KeepCalmCompassionI’m asking that we all take the time today, to pray for those in physical and mental pain.
Pray for them not to ignore the pain and to open up and talk to someone about it. Help them to see that people do care but there is nothing visible on the outside to make us see it, so they must be vocal about it and unashamed. Pray for them to seek God and professional help. Pray for ourselves to be more compassionate because if we’re honest, we can admit that we have a tendency to not believe the extent of others pain. Deuteronomy 28:54 says, Even the most gentle and sensitive man among you will have no compassion on his own brother, or the wife he loves, or his surviving children. We tend to think folks are exaggerating, when in fact, they are just sharing…needing to talk to someone.

Let’s learn to embrace life’s teachable moments… the moments where you actually have an opportunity to learn something and subsequently, take action to benefit someone else. It is in those moments we grow and are being molded and shaped into more compassionate human beings.


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3 Responses to Teachable Moment

  1. Rickey says:

    Amen – Great word and great lesson. 🙂

  2. Rickey says:

    Much love for you too Sis! Keep up the great work.

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